So you have been back to Altairboy's website dozens of times. Maybe you have even been lurking in the background, reading notes posted on the chastity belt discussion group but afraid to get involved. Perhaps you don't know why this stuff gets you so excited, but you hesitate mentioning it to your SO. After all, he/she might think this is kinda weird... kinky, but weird.
I went through the same stuff back in January '97 when I first saw Altairboy's site. At the time, I didn't even know these devices existed past the dark ages. And I never dreamt they had male versions. The FAQ was a revelation. I soon read through the entire site, which was much smaller than it is today. The idea appealed to me almost immediately and I don't know exactly why to this day. I think it has something to do with my innate submissive tendencies, but what do I know? Well, I ran home and brought up the subject with my SO. She thought it was kind of strange, but we sure had great sex that night. We visited Dressing For Pleasure, a remarkable shop in Montclair, New Jersey, a few days later. A real classy place. John gave us a guided tour. If you haven't already, take a look at the DFP website.
We went home and measured and remeasured and ordered the Jones belt a few days later. It took four months, but we finally got it on April 29th. Here follows our adventures since the time we ordered the belt. I wanted to write about all the stuff that I wish I knew beforehand. Some ideas may be found elsewhere on Altairboy's fabulous website. Some ideas are unique. And all are my observations only. Others may disagree. And like EVERYTHING you read on the WEB, take it with a healthy amount of skepticism. Some things you just have to experience yourself...
PICKING A CB
In my case, it was easy. We wanted a serious device for 24 hour a day use, not a toy that could be severed with scissors. That seemed to limit our choices to the Jones, Tollyboy and Walter belts. The excellent reviews on the relatively new Walter belt were not yet in and it would have to be ordered direct from Belgium. (I eventually ordered one of those too, but it has not yet arrived). The Tollyboy belt was an import from England and might take a very long time to obtain. Constance said that some Tollyboy orders had taken up to a year, at which time the customer's measurements may have changed. (She also said that each belt was indeed lovingly crafted and of the highest quality!) But the Jones belt seemed also to be a quality item (we inspected a sample at the DFP shop), and would be ready in a reasonable period of time, so we ordered one.
MEASURING
We measured several times and still got it wrong. We spoke with Bill Jones on the phone while visiting DFP and found that it was our fault. But John did rewrite the measuring instructions on the DFP site to clarify things a bit. (See my note about measurements). The only other tip I would give you is that all of the measurements begin and end from the belt that fits around your waist (above the hips!). When you measure, if the belt you use is not in the correct position, all of the measurements will be off. Remember that the real belt is made from stainless steel and does NOT bend and mold to your shape as a leather belt would. When you measure, use a new leather belt that is the proper width, and one that is very stiff. Imagine that the belt is actually a band of solid, unyielding steel resting on top of your hipbones and adjust the leather belt as best you can to mimic that. Then follow the measuring instructions exactly. And have someone measure as you really cannot measure yourself.
HOW LONG WILL IT TAKE?
It took me four months to get my belt. My SO and we both had great sex during that time just discussing how she would use it. So just be patient. Sometimes getting there really is half the fun.
FIRST IMPRESSIONS
When the belt arrived, I was surprised at how solid it really is. The ass chains are capable of towing a small truck without breaking. And that same truck can run over the penis tube without denting it. You definitely get the perception that once it is locked on, you're not getting it off without some serious metal cutting tools. Or the key, of course.
ADJUSTMENTS
During the past several months, we have had to make some adjustments to increase the comfort so that I may wear it for long periods. Here they are for your consideration:
With these adjustments, I believe it is possible to keep the Jones belt on indefinitely with no ill effects. The open design of the penis tube allows this. Although the Walter design does have its distinct advantages, I believe the closed tube requires it to be removed at least once a week for cleaning. I suspect that for long-term continuous wear (if that is important to you), the Tollyboy/Jones design is still the champ. I will know more when my Walter belt arrives next month, though.
DAILY LIFE
Once these adjustments were made, we've settled down into the following routine:
While waiting for the belt to arrive, my SO and I devised a card "game" that seems to work well enough. I pick a card once each month. The value of the card equals the number of days I am in consecutive, not out for a moment. Picture cards are ten days, aces eleven, Jokers 14 days. These card days are "sacred". The only way I can get out during card days is to use our safeword, and I will do that ONLY in a true emergency.
In other words:
There once was a fellow named Bard,
Who was seldom allowed to get hard.
His SO would grin : )
As she locked him in,
For the days that she got from a card.
The remainder of the month, I am in except for sex, exercise and showers about twice a week. I am never out for more than a few hours except for special events or working around the house on projects that might be dangerous while belted (painting the house on a ladder, for instance). I NEVER have access to the keys. I always go to work belted. I sleep belted almost always. The general rule is that I am belted unless there is a good reason for me to be unbelted. And I am to be belted again immediately following that event. My SO is considerate and does allow me some freedom if it is warranted. The belt is not for punishment. The belt allows us to concentrate sexual activity to just those times when my SO wants it. Being let out twice a week for one hour to go running (on non-card days, of course) does not go against this principle unless I decide to drop my running pants and whack-off behind a tree. (Mmmmm, there's an idea....)
For the past month or so I have been belted about eight out of ten days. I am still very much a newbie compared to some of the grizzled veterans on our discussion group, but I am surprised how quickly I became accustomed to the situation. Here are some impressions and observations about my daily belted life.
Showers take a lot longer than they used to. Takes a long time to clean and longer to dry. I do use a hair dryer (on "cool"!!!) and powder liberally. Allow about ten extra minutes. It is tolerable.
Urinating and defecating are also more trouble than they used to be. At work, urinals are useless to me. Keeping myself clean and dry takes time, handfuls of tissue, and acrobatic twisting maneuvers. When there's someone in the next stall, I have to be careful so my chains don't rattle on the seat. And when I go hiking with my SO, she thinks it is funny that I, like her, must squat to pee in the woods. Rough justice, I guess. This too is tolerable for me.
Sleeping in the belt was a problem for me only during the first week. I still try to get erections in the morning and they sometimes wake me up, especially when they are persistent. My penis does strive valiantly to become erect, but is no match for solid steel. That is something I must learn to live with. There does seem to be a learning process involved, since these episodes seem to diminish the longer I am belted. Or maybe I just learn to sleep through them.
The belt is not exactly comfortable, but it is not uncomfortable, either. I sometimes forget it is on, but not for long. After the adjustments we made, I find that I can function indefinitely in it. I need to come out only when my SO wants me out. But I still find that I get pinched and pulled sometimes. After all, it IS made of steel. And the ass chains dig into your butt, especially after sitting for long periods on a hard, wooden chair. I must confess that I find exercise difficult in it. Jogging can be done, but I must guard against chaffing where the lower front shield contacts my thighs. Powder and cream helps. And bending and twisting movements are more difficult, although you get used to moving in it after a few weeks.
After 6-7 days of continuous belting, I find that I get somewhat desensitized to the belt. Once it is off for only an hour, however, I find that I am acutely aware of my belted state soon after it is again wrapped around my body.
After 6-7 days of continuous belting, I find that my penis sometimes becomes so small that I can, with some difficulty, remove it from the tube. At night, I find that it is possible for it to slip out while reclining, especially when my partial erections serve to push me out of the tube. So at night, I am fitted with the optional rear shield. This is a "J" shaped piece of stainless that fits into the center back "C" ring, up through the legs, and is locked onto the lower lock on the front shield. This tightens the whole affair considerably so that extraction is impossible. We will continue to experiment to find a solution. It is not a big problem for us during the day, though. Sitting while driving or at work seems to push the little guy back down into the tube right up to the base. And even if you did extract the penis, the shield and belt is still locked in place, a very uncomfortable situation.
I find that the belt is really undetectable even in fairly tight jeans. My SO says that the bulge from the padlock is smaller than my usual unbelted bulge. So I cannot use my dress as an excuse to avoid belting. I also needed to get a goodly supply of boxers since my skimpy briefs just won't do. And while opening the pool last weekend, I find that I can even wear the Jones belt under my boxer-style bathing trunks without detection, as long as I am careful the waistband of the trunks do not drop below the steel band. My SO says that I can come out for pool parties with people we know to save me possible embarrassment. The beach, however, is another matter. She says I will remain belted during our beach trips. Damn!
On the plus side, my SO and I have super sex when I am out, especially when she tells me I must perform well before I go right back in. She also has a devilish look in her eyes when we go out. She often makes sly remarks about my condition in front of others. And since I am always belted when we are apart, I wear a constant unremovable steel reminder of her ownership of my most private parts. My SO says that I am to have no more unauthorized erections, and certainly NO masturbation. That kind of control excites me and her and makes it all worthwhile, I think. In fact, the psychological interplay between belt wearer and keyholder would keep a team of psychologists busy for a lifetime. Being belted is many things, but boring is not one of them.
So far, I think our experiment has been a success. In late August, I will begin a 2-3 month stint during which I will have no relief. The Walter belt should be in by then and we intend to shower (supervised and handcuffed so I may not touch myself) and change belts every 2 weeks during this period. This will be a real endurance challenge for me. But then, my SO will be recovering from an operation and will not be able to function sexually during that period anyway, so why would I be out?
MY SO
Just a word about my wife, friend, keyholder, and the love of my life. She still does not know why the belt appeals to me. But she is a sexy lady, bless her soul, and anything that enhances our love making is OK by her (and by me, too). And I do think she likes the situation more than she thought she would. All in all she thinks it is pretty funny and sexy! And she never lets a double entendre pass her by. She told my mother the other day, for example, that I could never leave her 'cause she holds the key to my "heart", followed by a sly glance at my belted crotch!
It is a real challenge for me to keep her satisfied during belted nights, but I do OK. We have gotten an arsenal of tools to assist me in the task, and I try to be creative. I do realize that other SO's may not be so accommodating, however. My advice to you is to go slow, and be patient. If your interest in CB's is producing a strain on a good relationship, give it up, at least for a while. Bring it up again gently when you can. But remember that it is just a toy, after all. Keep things in perspective.
I hope this has been useful to those considering a CB. I have tried to give a balanced view of things, both pro and con. So far, I am glad that we took the plunge. It will certainly be interesting to see if we feel the same way six months, a year, or five years down the road. Stay tuned....
Regards,
BARD
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