Advice and Encouragement

I started experimenting with chastity over 20 years ago.

My first attempt was to lock a Prince Albert to a guiche. This is certainly secure, but it is also very painful, and not in a way that's sexy, for me anyway. (There was so much constant tension on the piercings that they started to work themselves through the flesh. Probably using thicker piercings-that is, smaller gauge numbers-would have helped some, but not enough.)

I never bought a belt because my weight fluctuates due to exercise, aging, diet, etc. Also, I didn't want to have anything interfere, or even potentially interfere, with defecation.

I tried several chastity devices of the testicle restriction variety. I won't name them. Suffice it to say they were poorly thought out, poorly constructed, or both.

Then the CB-2000 came out, and I was really hopeful. But I blew it. I clamped it down too tight, didn't know about the altairboy site, and generally didn't know what I was doing. I experienced pain, and could still pull out of the device. When the Curve and the CB-3000 came out, I bought those as well but encountered other problems I won't go into here (not defects in those products, just incompatibilities between them and me). So all of the chastity devices wound up in a drawer or in the trash, and I wound up giving up on chastity.

Recently my interest was rekindled, and I was now armed with a whole user community that has various ideas, suggestions, tips, etc.

This time I was determined to make it work.

And I have succeeded, finally. Twice in the last three weeks I've been locked in for over a week, and both times have been without incident. The thing really works (at least in combination with a Prince Albert piercing). I can't get out, I can't play with myself in any meaningful way, and my Wife can make my life a living hell-in a good way.

So here is what I learned:

1) Read everything factual you can find about chastity (certainly read the fiction too-just don't rely on it for your information!). The altairboy website is the best resource I found for information. There are also various usergroups on yahoo and elsewhere. I also found http://www.kinkyconsumer.com to be helpful. And the guy who owns http://www.sufferware.com has been very helpful and responsive, and has good stuff for sale. And for me, the http://www.CB-2000.com website is also useful. (Note: I have no financial interest in any of the sites I recommend in this or other articles-I'm just a pleased consumer.) Read about all the options and devices, to get a feel for the entire set of possibilities. If you are fortunate enough to live where there is an active community, go to sex shops, play clubs, etc. and ask if you can see and hold various (unused) devices.

2) Be extremely clear up front about your requirements. Here is a partial list of things to think about:

• Do you want to wear the device for short periods of time, or do you want to be able to wear it for extended periods?
• Are you willing or unwilling to get a piercing?
• Are you willing to have to sit down to urinate?
• Does your weight fluctuate or stay constant? (If fluctuate, think twice about a belt.)
• If you are interested in a belt, do you have the right body shape (you really need to have hips for it to work), or will it slide down unless you get one so tight you can't wear it for very long?
• Do you want to be able to see your penis inside the device, or is an opaque material acceptable?
• What, truly, are the dimensions of your penis (flaccid and erect), scrotum, and testicles?
• Is it acceptable for you to be able to touch parts of your penis, or is complete isolation necessary?
• If complete isolation is necessary, are you willing to adhere to an exacting cleaning regimen?
• Is the device intended to prevent tumescence in addition to preventing masturbation (that is, do you want to be in a device that inflicts pain if your penis tries to swell, or do you want to be able to get as hard as possible inside the device without pain, just not be able to masturbate)?
• How heavy can the device be?
• Are you allergic to any materials used in constructing various chastity devices?
• Do you need to be able to completely submerge the device? (If so, leather is not a good choice, nor materials that will rust.)
• Are you easily irritated in the crotch area?
• Are you willing to shave your pubic region if it means less irritation from pulled/pinched hairs?
• Do you have consolidated and well-behaved stools, or are you "messy"? (If messy, think twice about a belt.)
• Do you want your anus and/or rectum to be unobstructed for sex play? (If yes, think twice about a belt.)
• Do you exercise, in which case chafing can become a serious problem unless you get a perfect fit?
• Do you travel by air? If so, what is your tolerance for embarrassment in front of strangers?
• Are there any situations other than air travel that you can think of where your wearing of a chastity device could be discovered and cause you economic or other harm? For example, a public gym. (If so, the less- detectable the device, the better.)
• Are you handy with your hands, or a klutz, in case minor tailoring and customization is required?
• If you are a klutz, do you live in an area where you can easily find experts to help you, or are you going to have to do customization via the mails?
• How much time and money are you willing to spend on this project? (More on this in the next section.)

As you define your requirements, they will guide you down the decision tree of possible devices until you get to the one that seems like the best for you.

To give an example, my specific requirements are:

• Long-term wear.
• Truly secure, piercing okay.
• Weight fluctuates (lately it's been going down, due to exercise and diet program to please Wife).
• Sitting to urinate okay (in fact, desired for the extra "humiliation").
• Viewable instead of opaque.
• Limited access okay, tumescence without pain okay (full exposed erection that can be masturbated clearly not okay!).
• Must be lightweight, barely noticeable.
• No allergies or particular sensitivities.
• Need to be able to get device wet, and to wash it thoroughly, and to do so while it is worn.
• Shaving okay (in fact, desired, and laser removal is planned).
• No interference with defecation or assplay.
• Must allow vigorous exercise without chafing.
• Must be airport-security safe, 100% plastic (at least while traveling).
• No other situations in which detection would be a problem.
• Handy with crafts, machining, etc., so tuning/adjustments not a problem to do myself.
• Willing to do whatever it takes to get it to work.

In my case, my requirements immediately ruled out belts and metal devices, and guided me pretty obviously to the CB series. From there, it was "just" a matter of getting one of the CB models to work.

3) If your device is not off-the-shelf, but instead is custom-fitted based on measurements you give to the vendor, be extremely careful when you take the measurements. Measure twice, cut once.

4) Expect to spend a lot of time and money to find a chastity solution that perfectly suits you. I figure I've spent at least 200 hours and $1,500 on this project. Not everybody will have to spend that much, but don't expect to get it right the first time out either. Plan to experiment and iterate, and to spend time fine-tuning the solution to make it suit you. (For example, some people aren't bothered by the mold-separation marks on the CB series plastic components, and some are. If you are bothered, you will need to trim and polish the components.) Start with short wearing periods and work your way up, tuning and tweaking as you learn about how you and the device interact. Don't settle on a solution right away-try different sizes of rings, spacers, piercings, or whatever adjustments are possible with your device until you get the absolutely best fit you can achieve with your particular anatomy and that particular device. The more comfortable you make the device, the longer you can wear it (assuming long-term wear is of interest to you).

5) Don't give up. If you are unlucky like me, you may have difficulty finding the right solution, and may be tempted to give up. Don't. Keep at it. Believe me, it's worth every hour and every dollar I put into this. My relationship with my Wife has gone from nearly sexless to mind-blowing. All for a few pieces of metal and plastic!

Note: Throughout the above writeup, I used term such as "my" and "you", when a more-precise wording would have been something like "you and/or your Keyholder" (for example, "Do you and/or your Keyholder want your anus and/or rectum to be unobstructed for sex play?". After all, it's really your Keyholder's decision! I tried writing everything using the more-precise wording, but it became so cumbersome to read it wasn't worth it.

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