Why You Should Tell Your Wife

For years I have lurked on this site and others of similar nature. I have been married 25 years and the sizzle had gone out of our sex life. In addition, I have had these sorts of fantasies for life.

Like many people on this site (I suspect) I entertained many ways to achieve my fantasies. I even considered leaving my wife to find the perfect domme for me. After much reflection I decided that I loved my wife ay too much to do this and I suppressed my fantasy -- reducing it to lurking here. Others I know actually left their spouse to find the sex life they crave.

After a friend was left by her husband -- over sex -- and with no warning -- my wife and I discussed how crazy that was. Why throw away a long-term committed relationship for sex without even talking to your spouse? This hit me hard and I finally decided I had to tell my wife somehow. How can one go to a stranger first without talking to the one person they love and trust more than anyone. I am completely devoted to my wife -- I had to trust her.

I collected a bunch of links to intelligent non-porn sites -- those that discussed the feelings of people in to chastity lifestyles. I found many links on this site, and several on others. I put these together in her computer. I told her I was going to buy something important to me and explain it to her later. I purchased a CB-2000, fitted it, and wore it for several days (shows how dead our sex life was, she did not notice it :-). I then placed the key in my pocket, asked her to go read the links, and left on a one hour errand.

When I cam back I asked what she thought. She said "it is kind of weird." Oh oh. Then she said "it also turned me on" What?! She then asked if I had one. I said I was wearing one and gave her the key. We have never looked back.

I should warn you -- reality and fantasy are not the same. She has really gotten in to this. She keeps me locked for weeks at a time and teases me unmercifully. She had me purchase toys because since "her cock" was locked up, I need another to please her. All of a sudden I find myself in the sack pleasing her almost daily, sometimes several times a day. She has my full attention and I have to listen to her and help her out more ... or no unlocking. It is a good thing that I find the reality better than the fantasy, but it could have turned out different.

The moral, I suppose, and why I am writing this -- if you have a partner you love and trust, he/she should be the first person you tell. Worse case they know you better and won't play. Perhaps then you look at other options. Best case, they get turned on and you realiize your fantasy with your partner. Just use care in how you present it and be prepared to live with it should she say yes.

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