Hi Everyone!
Sorry I haven't updated you in such a long time. Jeff and I have moved to a house in the country and, it's taken us quite a while to get completely settled in. Jeff celebrated his first year of chastity on March 4, and his birthday on March 9. The actual celebration was March 11, and, yes, he did get relief (but hasn't had any since).
On the fourth Jeff and I sat down and had a long discussion about the past year. While Jeff still enjoys chastity play, he says the novelty wore off pretty quick. He had always assumed that he could talk his way out of the cage about any time he wanted. It was a complete surprise to him that I would enjoy the level of control that his device gives me.
Hazel received Mike's cage late in October, and spent November and most of December getting him worn into it. She finally got him adjusted to it shortly before Christmas so he's been 24/7 for a little over three months now. So far chastity play has far exceeded Hazel's expectations.
Since Mike travels extensively (by car) in his job, spending three or four nights a week away, Hazel has developed a certain peace-of-mind in keeping Mike locked up. As she puts it, "I never realized the difference it would make in knowing Mike wouldn't cheat, to knowing he can't cheat - even by himself!" I readily agree with her on this point even though that's not the most important reason for keeping Jeff locked up. (So far Mike doesn't know that Jeff and I ‘know' about his situation. Hazel and I are discussing the most fun way for us to ‘discover his predicament.)
Prior to locking Mike up for keeps, Hazel took the cage to my friend at the jewelry store and had it engraved with "PROPERTY OF HAZEL XXXXXXXX. NO UNAUTHORIZED ACCESS." Then when she had Mike locked up she made him go pay for. (What a cute idea - wish I'd thought of it. Also, Hazel has discovered, as I have, that the chastity cage is, by far, the best husband training device ever invented (which is the prime topic of my update).
Over the past few months I have corresponded with about 100 couples either into chastity play or interested in starting. The majority of these couples indicate that the keyholder plays a purely passive role in the chastity relationship. In other words, holding the keys, she keeps hubby locked up for security, to regulate differing sex drives, or just to please their mates. Little or no mention is made of the chastity - she lets him out periodically for her pleasure then locks him up till next time.
One husband I talked to indicated he was in this type of relationship. His opinion was any article telling about a belted male that keeps getting hornier and hornier and more and more frustrated was fiction. I can see where he would feel that way - the mind and body quickly adapt to almost any situation. The male feels like, "...well, I can't get any now so I'll go do/think about something else..."
This type of relationship is perfectly acceptable and works for many couples. However, Hazel and I both feel that any woman who treats her mate this way is ignoring a wonderful opportunity to make her partner into the ideal mate. With just a little effort on her part she can have more affection, help around the house, quality time with her spouse, wonderful sex, or whatever else she desires.
What I put forward may, on the surface, seem like it takes a great deal of effort. However, it takes only a slight adjustment in the wife's activities to achieve. It's easy and often a lot of fun too. Most of the ‘work' will be done by the chaste husband and it doesn't take any expensive props or equipment. I'm talking about running a sexual tease on your husband/SO then denying him release. The results can be both rapid and startling.
One of the most basic things I do with Jeff take only a few minutes a day but are very effective. The simplest (and most obvious) is a passionate hug & kiss whenever we pass in the hall. Quick and easy. A little grind with the hips or breasts and hubby's attention is all on you.
Most men believe that physical affection wanted by their wives is, in fact, a prelude to sex - sort of pre-foreplay. Women, on the other hand, know that physical affection is enjoyable for it's own sake, and may or may not, be a prelude to something more. It's a shame that most women are forced to give up a nice kiss & cuddle because their spouse will then follow with an unwanted sexual advance. Unless, of course, she has him in a chastity device. Of course the male will be eager to accommodate her since he will never know if this session will be THE kiss & cuddle that gets her in the mood. If she wants something beside physical affection (say help around the house) all she has to do is mention toward the end of her kiss & cuddle that she would be ready for sex more often if she weren't so tired from housework, cooking, etc... You'd be amazed at how quickly even the densest spouse will pick up on this line of thinking.
One tool that I've suggested Hazel use (and, in fact, she does use) is a calender on the fridge. This a tool I used on Jeff (I've since dispensed with because Jeff is now so well trained). Any time hubby balks at a suggestion or shows anger toward his wife, that day is checked off in red. Any red mark during any week delays his release a day for each mark. Two red marks during any week delays his release for a full week. Three red marks during any week (or two two mark weeks back-to-back) delay his release until the next month. Obviously this is an excellent behavior modification tool for controlling anger, losing weight, quitting smoking/drinking, etc...
Most afternoons Jeff gets home shortly before I do. Since I work in a bank I spend most of my days on my feet in high heels. When I get home one of Jeff's chores is a foot and calf massage This activity often leads into one that's most difficult for him to adjust too. Pulling my panties down and working my sex with his tongue. If it's been a particularly stressful day I'll roll over and have him tongue my anus. Ladies, nothing is a better stress buster than having your backside rimmed. Of course hubby is right there at the ‘Gates of Paradise' without a key to enter.
A couple of nights every week we have a romantic romp by firelight (yes, in summer too). Jeff lights up the gas logs in the fireplace while I spread out the blanket for a sensual massage followed by some HEAVY petting. I love seeing Jeff getting all worked up in his tiny cage only to be maddeningly frustrated .
As I've related before, Sundays find Jeff tied to the bed where I stimulate him an hour or two, bring him to the edge of orgasm then letting him cool down, then starting again. I guarantee that this will get his attention in a heartbeat. Sometimes I'll invite Hazel over to work on Jeff.
Jeff always groans when he sees Hazel strut in and begin unbuttoning her blouse. The reason Jeff groans is that Hazel's going to work on him, but he's going to be in the cage the whole time. Jeff's never out when Hazel's around. BTW, the title, Merciless Tease, fits Hazel to a tee as she experiments on Jeff with things she's got planned for Mike.
I'm still using Jeff as my bath attendant. One of his most difficult chores is shaving me since he gets to observe every intimate inch of me.
I recently rented a tape on belly dancing, and I've been practicing up to surprise Jeff later. This has the advantage of being good exercise too!
Finally, I like to do a verbal tease at least once a day. Telling Jeff how much I love having complete control of his sexual outlet. How he can't ease his sexual tension by masturbating, how he can't make love to me (or anyone else) when he wants. How all he can use his penis for is peeing, and how even I regulate that since he must now sit to pee. (I also make him wear panties now to remind him of that necessity.) I remind him that he'll never be the sexual aggressor in our relationship.
Hope you can use some of these ideas to keep things interesting. Also, I'm always looking for new ideas to use on Jeff too, so feel free to write to me with any questions/comments or just to let me know how things are going.
Hugs,
Hilda
misspriss69@hotmail.com
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