Hi Altairboy!
I hope this post doesn’t ramble too much. It started out as a simple update and metamorphosed into a type of primer. Oh well!
I’d like to thank all of the nice letters I received after my last post in May. I’d especially like to thank Cathy (chasticathy) for all her wonderful ideas and suggestions. Jeff has been locked into his Birdcage for over 5 1/2 months now, and the change in him is simply amazing!
He is so much more attentive and affectionate than before. Despite being dubious to start with, had I known that he would have changed so much, I’d have had him caged long before now. This lifestyle may not be for everyone, but if there are any lady lurkers out there who have husbands interested in chastity, I’d advise them to at least give it a try.
I’ve read everything I can get my hands on about chastity and talked to so many nice people. I’d like to share some of what I’ve learned from others and discovered on my own. I’m sure this is nothing new to you veterans, but for newcomers it might be helpful.
After the first couple of weeks of playing around with this toy I began to realize that I had no real idea of what Jeff expected of me. I had read that couples involved in ‘unusual’ love play often formed a contract. That gave me an idea.
Jeff and I didn’t really need an elaborate contract, but, writing down our expectations would make it easier for both of us (especially me). That afternoon I suggested that each of us sit down with a small pad and outline our desires and expectations.
Jeff’s list was longer than mine. I’ll outline, what I consider, the key points below:
I want Hilda to cheerfully and lovingly:
As you can see all Jeff’s expectations are completely sexual in orientation. I’m afraid my list was a little more mundane. My key points are:
I want Jeff to:
He also admitted that he had been masturbating a minimum of three times a day, frequently more often. (No wonder he wasn’t interested in me.)
We exchanged our lists and talked about them. Then we each signed both lists and stapled the together along with a release clause in case either of us decided we no longer wanted to play. I was surprised to find that our lists dove-tailed in several areas even though they came from different perspectives.
I think that this sort of quasi-contract is important so that the couple has a better understanding of what they want/expect
Next, I’d like to discuss the security of the Birdcage since others have found it to be less than totally secure.
Jeff’s cage seems to be VERY secure. He’s told me that he hasn’t had an orgasm (other than those I allow and a couple of wet dreams) while he’s been locked up. I think that’s because of the sizing of the cage. The "A" ring is pretty small at 5 inches. It isn’t easily moved down his cock and, therefore, provides a secure attachment base for the cage portion. The cage itself is small, 2 ½ inches long, and is about a 1/4 inch longer than his flaccid cock. This length only accommodates about 1/3 of his normal erection. I guess this sizing makes it a little uncomfortable for Jeff at times, but I don’t see how Jeff could possibly get satisfaction while locked in it. I’ve even tried for more than an hour to stimulate him to orgasm while locked up without any success.
Another correspondent wrote that, in his experience, after a few weeks in a chastity device the skin of his penis lost some elasticity. He also said it took a few hours to a couple of days before it was comfortable to perform. Well, I didn’t want this to happen to Jeff for a couple of reasons. One, I wanted him to be ready to please me at MY whim. Two, I didn’t want any long-term physical complications.
Back to the net and the books for me! I think I’ve hit on the ideal system to prevent this sort of problem. Every Sunday afternoon Jeff and I engage in an activity I call ‘Sexercicse’. Jeff is tied down to the bed. I throughly clean him with soap, alcohol, and water. The Birdcage goes to the dishwasher. Then I begin. I spend at least a couple of hours masturbating Jeff up to the point before orgasm, then quit and let him cool off. Then I begin again. This goes on over and over until Jeff is begging (in vain) for release. I make a game of it - how long can I keep him hard without going over the edge? Our longest session lasted almost 4 hours before I tired and reinstalled his cage with him unsatisfied. Of course Jeff loves the stimulation but hates the ensuing frustration.
Another writer informed me that after he’s locked up he begins to lose interest in sex. I’m not sure of this person’s age or the level of involvement his SO has in his chastity activities, but I would think that anyone can be horny with the right encouragement.
One of the things I do to keep Jeff focused on sex (and me as center of his sexual universe) is dressing and acting as a sexually available and desirable woman. I vary my outfits and lingerie each day to keep Jeff interested. I also flirt with him almost constantly.
I’ve already told you about my Sexercise program, but I’ve gotten more physically affectionate with Jeff in other ways as well. Whenever we pass in the hall there is always time for kiss-kiss. I kiss him passionately and grind my body into his during the kiss. When we watch movies together we kiss and When he’s doing chores such as washing dishes I’ll walk up behind him and give him a big hug, then I’ll reach down and give his caged cock a little squeeze. That never fails to cause a semi-erection reminding Jeff that only I can provide his relief.
For bed-wear I’ve bought semi-transparent, shorty, negligees in red, black, peach, whit, and plum colors. I make Jeff wear silk boxers to bed. Either I snuggle up to him spoon fashion and reach down and hold his cock or he must snuggle up to me spoon fashion. I usually pull his caged cock out and nestle it between my thighs against the crotch of my panties. This plays on Jeff’s mind that only the thin nylon and the metal cage keep him from paradise. It also gives me a play-toy to rub against my crotch for my own stimulation. :-)
Another activity I use to keep Jeff interested is oral sex. The longer hubby goes without the more punishing this activity becomes. For him to earn any relief he must service me every day I’m not on my period. I try not to make it too easy for him though. Some days I make him work around the house before letting him service me. Some days I play ‘hard-to-get’. I make him work to get me in the ‘mood’. I get massages, pedicures, lotioning sessions, romantic dinners - whatever it takes. It’s almost as much fun watching him struggle to make me want oral sex as the actual act itself. I also find it amusing to have my husband, who used to neglect me sexually, now begging to bury his face in my sex!
Some days I act all "hot and bothered" when Jeff gets home. Attacking him with kisses and caresses at the door. Cooing and blowing in his ears. Telling him how hungry my sex is for him. Then offering to let him try his luck with the ‘Lotto Sex’ game (see my previous post for details). (Once he even got so excited that he did try it when the odds weren’t in his favor. We both had to be satisfied with a ‘licking’ that afternoon!)
Some afternoons I’ll call him at the office with this same routine. Then I’ll set my vibrator out and act like I couldn’t wait for him He’s expecting one scenario when I dump another on him. He never knows what’s waiting on him at home.
Of course I like to keep weekends at a fever-pitch too. I’ve already told you how Sunday afternoons are spent. Some Saturdays I take Jeff out shopping for lingerie and a girl-watching session or an afternoon at the pool. (Hooray for Summer!) Some Saturday evenings we play a version of strip-poker. I start out with seven articles of clothing on - bra, panties, pantyhose, teddy, skirt, blouse, and shoes. My clothes come off in reverse order. If Jeff can get me naked without losing a hand, I give him relief. However, if he loses a hand he loses that opportunity AND must pay a forfeit based on the value of each article (bra and panties worth 25 each, teddy 15, pantyhose 10, blouse/skirt/shoes worth 5 each). He gets a spanking.
A couple of Saturdays ago I did something a little mean to Jeff. Earlier that week I promised him a free (uncaged) afternoon alone. When Saturday came, I had Jeff strip and cuffed his hands behind him. Then I removed his cage and took him to the den where I had prepared a surprise. (I had removed a heavy removed a heavy hanging basket from the eye-hook in the center of the ceiling. Then I hung a chain from the eye. I had also moved all the furniture out of ‘reach’.) I snugged the chain between his cheeks, through his crotch and attached it to his balls with a leather strap. Next I attached his cuffs to the chain.
In this position Jeff could get some stimulation by tugging on the chain (but not enough to cum). I kissed him, grabbed the cage, and told him to have ‘fun’ and not to go away. Then I took the cage to a friend of mine who runs a jewelry store.
I have spent quite a while playing with various names for the cage (I love to personify things) before finally hitting on one I really liked. My friend engraved it on the top bar of the cage in flowing script:
Now whenever Jeff pulls it out to go to the bathroom or shower, he’ll see I’m there with him - still in control. :-)
I stopped back by the house to check on him. He was standing there forlornly tugging the chain, his cock rock-hard. I showed him my new addition to the cage, dropped in a nearby chair (with the keys to his cuffs), and headed out for an hour or so of shopping. When I returned, Jeff still hadn’t had any luck so I released him from the chain and deflated his cock with some ice. Then I reinstalled the cage. Poor Jeff looked so pathetic that I decided to do him the next day. (Of course he didn’t know that at the time!)
Something I’ve been considering to make Jeff do during his lunch and breaks at the office is to have him compose a hot, passionate letter or poem to my ‘Pleasure Pussy’. The idea being that if he can wake her up and arouse her he might get ‘lucky’. Still toying with this idea.
In conclusion, chastity play is not for every couple; but for those with open minds and at least a chastity fantasy, I can recommend it as being a workable and pleasurable lifestyle. Even though Jeff would love release much more often, he’s confided to me that he’s never considered using the release clause of our ‘contract’.
Thanks for your attention and I hope this will encourage some of my hesitant sisters to try this. I’m glad I did! As always, I’m looking for more good ideas to keep Jeff horny and frustrated. Any comments or ideas are always welcome!
Hugs & Kisses,
Hilda - misspriss69@hotmail.com
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