Why I Control Him!

Hi AB,

Just wanted to write to you because after a few months of reading your site I have not found many letters written by wives that are keyholders. I figure maybe if I start it others too will soon write.

My husband, Anthony, and I have been married for three years now and prior to our relationship Anthony had a lot of on again off again relationships so he had become so accustomed to masturbation because he began to feel he should never not feel satisfied. Prior to our marriage sex was a more or less frequent thing for us, basically because he felt he just couldn't go without an orgasm. My personal feeling is this: I enjoy sex with him and the orgasms that come with it, but I'm not going to feel it controls me.

After we married we both decided that sex shouldn't bare so much weight on our relationship and Anthony said he would try to control his desires. In the first six months of our marriage I noticed that our occurrences of sexual relations fell from about six times per week to about twice a week. I found it so hard to believe that my husband was able to control his urges so well and not have mood changes. This brought me to realize that this was to good to be true so I decided I would have to inquire. When he came home from work and we sat down for dinner I commented on the change he has made over the last few months and he didn't think too much of it. I asked him if he had been seeking another source of relief and due to the totally honest relationship we have, he stated, yes Lisa, "I've been jerking off". He apologized and stated that he didn't want to force me to have sex so frequently but since puberty he has never deprived him self of orgasms. Although I could not be mad at him, he was honest and truthful, I realized that I must now take control of his orgasms.

Anthony was definitely not to pleased by my decision but agreed because he "loves me to much to have me feel uncertain about his honesty with me." I spoke with my sister regarding this situation and she steered me in the direction of obtaining a chastity belt. I conducted my search for chastity belts on the internet and decided to make an initial purchase of the bird cage so that we could "test the waters". I chose the bird cage because it was inexpensive and prevented the ability of erection and orgasm.

When it arrived Anthony and I played on and off for two weeks so he could adjust to it before I installed it on a permanent basis. When the two week adjustment period was over I placed the cage on. Initially I did not let him get too uncomfortable, I would let him out for relief and full cleaning every other day. As the first couple of months passed he came to the reality that I now had all control of his penis and I realized that it was now becoming time for things to change a bit. His free time became less frequent he had gone from every other day to every third day to once per week.

I now really began to realize that the control I had was enormous but I could not abuse it. Anthony was beginning to realize that his pleasure was becoming less and less important to me but that it was still important that I never have a sexual desire. Don't get me wrong it was still important to me but I felt it was time I came first, I never let him suffer too long. Anthony was taken on a test run where he didn't get any relief for 33 days and although he did display some displeasure he never neglected to make sure I was serviced as requested, usually 4-5 times per week. Anthony came to realize as well as I did that I now theoretically owned his penis and he would do nothing with it other than urinate with it without my approval.

There have become times where I have not even allowed him to urinate through his penis. I placed a urine tube in his bladder through his urethra that I purchased at a surgical supply store with a bag that attaches to his leg. My sister who is a nurse gave me explicit directions on the procedure so I would cause him no harm. I'd only leave this in for a couple weeks at a time and take it out till his mind needs to be refreshed again that it is now my penis. We experienced one incident where he performed an illegal action with his penis. I removed the cage to clean him and the cage and while my back was turned he decided to masturbate, at this point he had been without orgasm for 17 days, I had planned on him having one the next night but instead he waited another 33 days, and now I must completely restrain him to prevent any occurrences like this again.

Anthony has come to agree with the position he is in and really doesn't mind. This has become our way of life for close to 2 years now and it makes things better for both of us. I must say I really enjoy teasing him to the fullest as frequently as possible and just leave him without relief, it kind of turns me on, I notice my desire for relief becomes more the longer I prevent him from being relieved and my orgasm are much more potent.

We now are searching the market for the best and most secure full belt to keep him locked well and prevent any stimulation he gets with the open cage.

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