Chastity belt Q&A

Subject:      chastity belts
From:         bgood11111@aol.com (Bgood11111)
Date:         January 17, 1996
Newsgroups:   alt.personals.bondage

We heard of an inquiry we can't find in the posting. Someone wanted to correspond with women who wear or have worn Tollyboy or Cinture chastity belts. We both wear chastity belts with the other spouse holding the keys. I first put my husband in a Tolly boy belt purchased through Marie Constance in NJ about 6 years ago. (He wears it almost all of the time except when I want him out of it). I've worn one sporadically for the past 2 years purchased directly from Dronfield UK.

For anyone not familiar with these particular devices they are the real thing - stainless steel, impossible to remove and intended for long term wear, not just a play session. The fun fantasy feeling fade pretty quickly when you realize that you are really locked in and the only one with the keys is out of town for a week or two!

1. Are chastity belts easy to wear? Yes if made to measure and fitted carefully. Each must be made to the individual by a skilled craftsman. A snug but not tight fit is essential. If it is too loose, rather than feeling better, it tends to move about too much and chaf causing an uncomfortable rash under the waist belt. Comfortable? Certainly tolerable. At times I forget it is even on, but not for long. I will make some movement and be aware of the pressure at my hips or on my mons at my crotch. Occassionaly I get pinched (never in a critical area) as I slide in and out of our car!

2. Do they work? Absolutely! Vaginal intercourse is impossible. The model I wear would allow anal intercourse but Tollyboy can make an add on that is said to prevent even that access. However that design (I believe) is unacceptably difficult to keep clean. I can wiggle my fingers under the broad frontal piece and get a finger or two between my labia and play with myself! But there is no way that I can imagine having convential sex with a male while I'm wearing this. Do they work? One thing they do is seemingly increase my desire for vaginal intercourse! To badly paraphrase Shakespeare's wisdom about wine and sex to cb's and sex, "it increases the desire will lessening the perfomance!" I always want what I can't have!

It drives my husband wild at times. He will do anything, anything, to get me to unlock him. I suspect that he may be able to get his cock out of the tube it is in and masturbate himself, but intercourse is impossible. Even to masturbate is very difficult and I suspect uncomfortable because if he withdraws his cock from the tube before he gets an erection, it must be bent completely to one side or the other to be handled - this has got to be an uncomfortable position.

I know he is severely embarassed to be seen in it by other men or women.

3. Are they easy to keep clean? You've got to work at it. Whenever I have mine or my husbands off, I run it through the dishwasher - high temperature and disinfectant soap works wonders! For daily cleaning when I can't take it off I shower more often than I would have otherwise. We have actually remodeled our bathroom to include a bidet ( I suppose more common for you folks in the UK and europe than here) Both my husband and I use it frequently. We also installed one of those shower nozzles on a flexible hose to get the spray at awkward places. This is the most convenient item for daily cleaning.

My husband complains the most because he used to urinate standing, but now has to sit like me and the pee hits a perforated metal plate before it spills into the toilet. This means that he uses a lot of toilet paper cleaning between his thighs and wherever he can reach under the belt. he finds this humiliating - I'm glad he does, it is a constant reminder that I control his every function. This is inconvenient but not a problem as long as he showers and cleans thoroughly a couple times a day. ( I like the idea of him having to wait for a stall when we at a theater or sporting event! There are always too few bathrooms for women at these events. Now he believes me!) He also has to be a bit careful around his buddies who don't know what he is wearing.

4. Are they easy to conceal under clothing? Depends. Mine is no problem under normal business wear clothes. I make sure to buy clothes that have the waistline that falls where the belt rides above my hips. (Easy to do if you are wearing it shopping.) I doubt that anyone ever notices the belt or the frontal shield. Most of my clothes are stylish but not that tight fitting in front. In the back there are two straps that run from just in front of the anus up over the buttocks to attach to the belt about 4 inches to each side of the rear mid-point of the belt. These show occassionaly like a large panty line under tight fitting skirts or pants. I am often conscious of these, but I still wear tight clothes when we go out anywhere. I am always (often) imagining that people will notice and guess what I am wearing under my skirt or pants. However, no one, no one has ever commented or asked. I worry and fear that people notice; mostly I worry about family patting me on the butt or hugging me. My mum's hands have come alarmingly close but never actually touched the belt or straps. For the people I work with and the casual folks on the street. I don't think anyone can ever see anything more than a slight line, never enough to figure out the whole pattern of what is under my clothes. I still get nervous at times and feel self-conscious, but I probably don't have to worry.

Men generally don't wear as many tight fitting clothes so concealment is less of a problem for him. Even in levis that fit tightly at the butt, the rear chains seldom show. He has played basketball and done a lot of hiking wearing his belt - with only the occassional blister or sore spot developing.

5. Can they be worn without removal and if so for what length of time? I don't know the maximum time. Most of Tollyboys clients are in the arab countries of the middle east and I suspect that some of those may be on permanently! I have worn mine for 46 days and 10 hours! This was while my husband was out of town on business. He was wearing his for the same time.

I know I could have worn it longer - if you don't have the key you can and will wear it as long as the keyholder wishes! During this month and a half extent I had one rash develop under the waist belt at the left side. I suspect that I wasn't diligent enough in drying the skin under the belt after showering. I use a hair drier to blow warm air under the belt. It seemed like I had developed diaper rash! Squeezing a bit of antibiotic ointment under the belt cleared it up even before my husband returned home. I have had several yeast infections while wearing my belt, but I get those occassionally anyway and I'm not sure they are related. I take extra care with the bidet and the shower nozzle to rinse areas that are hard to reach. If I don't get careless; I don't think there is a problem.

I have kept my husband in one for over 3 months once when I was displeased. He didn't like it. He got incredibly horny but I never allowed him out of it for sex. I took it off once every two weeks to clean it and kept his hands cuffed behind his back while it was off. He was so horny that I caught him rubbing himself against the arm of a sofa!

I haven't found a bathing suit that didn't look like a 10 year old's with ruffles that hid the belt enough to go the beach! We have basically stopped going to the beach or swimming with friends while wearing our belts. Or if you both agree, the key holder can remove the belt for a social occassion.

The problem with long term wear is the psychological one. At times, especially when sleeping alone, I become intensely away ofthis confining presure on my genitals. I feel I have to get it off and to put something big into me! Obviously nothing goes in directly from the front, I can slip my fingers under from the side and play with myself until I get off and finally can get to sleep. (My husband reports the same frustrations.)

When we are sleeping together, he must wear his unless I want him. I know it is difficult and also exciting for him to lay there feeling my body against him and knowing he isn't going to get to do anything. And the fact is that he has become so adept at satisfying me manually and orally that I really don't need or want his cock all that often. He works really hard at pleasing me because he thinkgs if he gets me off wonderfully well - I might let him out. What he doesn't realize is that I enjoy both his efforts and his frustration. The better he satisfies me, the less I want his cock! It just isn't working out the way he expects!

6. Are they any problems? Yes, no sex while my husband is out of town! Clenliness above is the only real consistent problem to deal with. Rare but stressful problems have arisen when I tried to board a flight to Los Angeles.

The metal detector at the airport boarding gate went crazy! I tried to discretely explain to the security attendent that I was wearing a metal belt adn could't remove it. He insisted that I must be able to remove it. I had to step aside and request to see a female supervisor who took me into a nearby office and started over demanding that I remove whatever was setting off the metal detector. I tried to pull my blouse up and my skirt down just enought to show the waist belt but not the lower crotch shield and pointed to the belt. But she wanted to see the whole thing. I resignedly lowered by skirt and panties and let her see the whole thing. She relaxed when she realized I wasn't trying to be difficult and/or sneak a bomb onto the plane.

She first thought my husband must be a monster for inflicting this on me, but when I showed her the keys to his belt (the enter the lock but won't unlock mine) she lightened up and seemed amused and curious. However this took time and I nearly missed my flight. My husband has had similiar experiences and from his account, male security people have been even less understanding and more likely to ridicule a chastity belted male. he was once held in a security office until all of the men on duty had a chance to see his predicament and ridicule him! This was a bit more emotional abuse than even I wished for him.

My husband has been humiliated by having his doctor discover his belt. He thought I would take it off before he had to to to a dermatology appointment. But I decided not to! He was supposed to get a couple warts removed and a mole checked. These were on his arms and his back. He tried to finese his way through the exam by only removing his shirt, but the doctor said as long as he was in the office, they should do a complete exam for skin cancers etc. He insisted that my husband drop his pants and was very surprised to discover him wearing steel underwear! I even enjoy his humiliation in retelling me the incident.

7. Would it be practical to us a cb as a way of ensuring fidelity? Sure - but remember than it still allows some manual stimulation so it is possible that he can get himself off. But I certainly no longer worry about him have casual affairs when he is travelling.

I insisted on a belt for my husband when I discovered his involvement with another woman at work six years ago. His constantly wearing the belt (and a few other changes in our life) were my conditions to avoid what for him would have been a costly divorce! He had always had some submissive tendencies and he readily accepted this arrangement to keep me in his life and out of his bank accounts. Our relationship has solidified over the years but I really like the idea of keeping him under lock and key. he only gets to take it off for my pleasure even when we are both in town. My husband travels on business a lot and I definitely want him controlled while he is out of town.

8. How secure are these? Very. The older model he wears has some special italian keys I have been unable to have duplicated an any of over 10 locksmiths - including one who tried to cut a key from scratch when he couldn't find a blank for it. The newest model has a very strange circular key that can't be picked. The steel is hardened stainless and probably couldn't be cut with a blade and no one wants a cutting torch against their skin. I believe them to be secure. using a hair drier on the locks prevents any rusting or jams. In the case of emergencies a good friend has extras of each key alongwith our house and car keys, she has no idea what is on that key ring. But neither of us would ask her for the keys without the other findng out, because that would be such an unusual occurence.

P.S. All info is based on the Tolly Boy CBs. The only thing we have made by Bill Jones is a collar that isn't really up to the standard of Tollyboy products (it also wasn't as costly!) But we have come to believe that you get what you pay for.


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