First Experience With Chastity

Submitted by: JP

I can't even remember why I first searched the Internet for "chastity", but as I explored some of the well-known web sites, I became intrigued. At first, I just thought it was just another form of kinky fetish, but some of the descriptions of how masturbating and fantasizing can diminish your feelings towards your wife or partner hit close to home. There was no doubt that I had lost most of the sexual attraction that I initially had for my wife over 17 years of marriage and that she felt that I no longer gave her as much affection and romantic attention as she needed. Our sex life had suffered as a result.

A couple of weeks later, I ordered a CB300 and had it delivered to my job so my wife would not know. I spent a week experimenting with the 'A' ring sizes. The large ones seemed prone to escape (even accidental escape), while the smaller ones were too uncomfortable to wear for a day. Then I realized that the shortest locking pin would bring the cage closer to the 'A' ring and prevent my balls from slipping between. Having decided on a combination of the second largest 'A' ring and shortest locking pin, I wrote a letter to my wife explaining the chastity device, where she could find it and the reasons why I had purchased it. In the letter, I explained the theory of how controlling a man's sexual pleasure could result in him focusing more in his partner.

After she read the letter, my wife agreed to try what I proposed. A couple of days later, she locked the device on my cock (we call him 'Willie') and I had to come to terms with the fact that I no longer had access to it. This was quite different to experimenting while I still had access to the key. For almost 30 years since my first orgasm, I had used Willie for my pleasure whenever I liked, often stimulating him several times a day. Now that was suddenly ended!

I had decided to make a determined effort to be more affectionate to my wife in order to encourage her to go along with my plan. But once she was my Keyholder, I found that I did not even have to try in order to change my behavior towards her. I immediately found her to be more attractive, someone I wanted to touch and cherish almost desperately. Whenever I was close to her or we touched, I could immediately feel Willie straining to get out of his cage. I enjoy giving her massages and all the attention she deserves, but rarely used to get.

I have found that almost any sexual thought instantaneously causes Willie to vainly try to burst out of his compartment. The effect is instantaneous. Instead of my usual fantasies, I have started fantasizing about giving her orgasms while Willie remained locked-up. While often feel a need to orgasm, I also fantasize about being prevented from having an orgasm for an extended period, with my strictly wife denying all my pleas for release. It has become difficult to know whether having an orgasm would be better than the erotic feeling from continued denial. But there are days when I've felt turned on almost continuously. I'm going to figure out how to get control over my thoughts and get Willie to remain calm before I turn into a basket case.

Our sex life is now better than ever. We make out most nights and some mornings (when we have time). My wife usually puts on something sexy (often including stockings) instead of her usual nightgowns that may be comfy for her, are not especially alluring. At first, my wife wanted Willie to come out and have an orgasm every time that she did, and I had to point out that it would defeat the purpose if he ended up having as many orgasms as he was used to getting. Now, she's taking that advice to heart and last time I waited 15 days.

Last night, I had one of the most erotic experiences of my entire life. I was handcuffed hand and foot to the bed while my wife spent about 15-20 minutes rubbing lotion all over Willie. Then she teased him with ruthlessly with her stockinged feet, before straddling me with Willie positioned in the mouth of her pussy. I almost went wild with excitement, reaching up to kiss her in every place that I could reach, while Willie was vainly stretching to get inside her. After about 10 minutes, she dismounted, released my hands and ordered me to put Willie in his cage. It took a while for Willie to calm down enough as my wife watched impatiently, padlock in hand. As soon as Willie was inside the cage, she swooped down and applied the lock. I grabbed her, kissed her passionately all over until my tongue found its way to her pussy. About 15 minutes later, she had a powerful orgasm, her third in as many days, which we are both sure is a personal record. I have of course remained chaste. But, although Willie remains unsatisfied, I have found deep satisfaction in my wife's happiness and the improvement in our relationship.

Having described the obvious benefits, here are some of the 'cons' and how I am dealing with them:

  • Frequent sexual arousal interfering with daily routine such as work - I'm hoping this will subside as I grow more accustomed to my situation
  • Irritation in the penis - as Willie is not circumcised, we have decided he must come out to be washed at least once per 48 hours to avoid the possibility of edema or infection
  • Irritation caused by the hinge of the 'A' ring - I covered the hinge with a band aid-like tape
  • Burning sensation around the balls during the night (apparently caused by the weight of the cage and enclosed penis putting torque on the A-ring) - when sleeping on my side, ensure that the cage is tucked between my thighs or resting on my lower thigh, rather than hanging unsupported. Also, keep anti-itch cream handy to relieve the sensation.
  • Sleep disturbance (this has been my single-worst problem) - In part its caused by the discomfort as described above. Other than taking the actions described above, I also keep a sleeping pill handy in case I'm having trouble getting back to sleep.


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